Whole Life Healing

45 One thing changes one never does

In this episode Dr. Alex will talk about "One thing changes, one never does"

 

 

44 Never be on the wrong side

This episode of Whole Life Healing is part of a foundational series that we will be featuring. Please forgive the inferior sound quality, as this was a recorded conference call.

Maybe you come from a background like Dr. Alex’s that told you the balance of your good and bad deeds determined who you were as a person and there wasn’t much you could do to change that except for doing more good things and fewer bad things. This is a very wrong approach to life because it removes grace and love from the situation and encourages you to pursue love substitutes instead.

Ultimately, what matters is what is in your heart, and everyone has done wrong things internally, externally, or both. That is a fact of life that cannot be denied or changed, but there are ways to make sure you do not go down the path of pain and fear, where you will be lost. If you are being tempted to do wrong, you are still on the right side. You can’t be tempted to go somewhere you already reside, so when you are on the wrong side, you will not be tempted; you will just be acting according to your nature at that point. If you are on the right side, you will experience a struggle with the darkness that is tempting you.

We go into the darkness to get something, not to lose something, but darkness always causes us to lose the most important things to us and gain nothing in comparison. You can experience or do some bad things and still be living in the light, as long as you are still experiencing temptation and you believe in your heart that you are on the side of light and love. After this episode, spend some time in prayer and meditation asking God to heal and renew your heart and bring you back to the right side if you feel you have gone astray.

You can join Dr. Alex each Wednesday for the live podcast covering the topics of health, wellness, relationships, and success, pertaining to the whole life: mind, body and spirit. They are held every Wednesday afternoon and are completely free to anyone who would like to join. As a bonus, a few callers can get a free personal custom code for any issue bothering them. 

https://www.dralexanderloyd.com/calls

 

43 Foundational Series: How do you feel about what you do

This episode of Whole Life Healing is part of a foundational series that we will be featuring. Please forgive the inferior sound quality, as this was a recorded conference call.

It is not so much what you do, but what you feel about what you do. Everything in life ultimately boils down to why you do it, either out of love and truth or fear and pain. You can live your life viewing everything as something you “have to” do or you can choose to have joy and put your passion into those things and make them things you “want to” do.

As we have discussed before, you can experience these different effects in life:

• Placebo – you believe that something will make you feel better, so it does, even if it was just a sugar pill
• No-cebo – you believe that the thing will not make you better, so it doesn’t, even if it is legitimate medicine
• De facto – believing the truth about reality and experiencing permanent change

You can think through every situation in life in terms of WHAT you do or don’t do, WHY you do or don’t do it, and WHO you are that makes you do or not do it. If you have doubts about doing something that other people may say is fine to do, you are denying your identity and sinning in your heart if you do it. Something can be right for your friend and wrong for you, so it is best to just follow your conscience and stop judging others and yourself.

By healing fear and choosing to live in love in the present moment, you can turn your “have to’s” into “want to’s.” After listening to this episode, think about these questions: What is your thing? How do you feel about what you do and who you are?

You can join Dr. Alex each Wednesday for the live podcast covering the topics of health, wellness, relationships, and success, pertaining to the whole life: mind, body and spirit. They are held every Wednesday afternoon and are completely free to anyone who would like to join. As a bonus, a few callers can get a free personal custom code for any issue bothering them. 

https://www.dralexanderloyd.com/calls

 

42 Foundational Series: It's all me - or is it? About blaming yourself

This episode of Whole Life Healing is part of a foundational series that we will be featuring. Please forgive the inferior sound quality, as this was a recorded conference call.

It is very common for people to blame others or their circumstances when they experience pain in their lives, even if the blame is misguided. The conscious mind must have a reason that explains the pain being felt, which often leads to using twisted logic and results in more pain and fear than were experienced in the original situation. As has often been said: “The problem is never the problem.”

However, at the end of life, almost everyone will look back at specific situations and take responsibility in their part of the misunderstanding or disagreement, realizing that they allowed the pain and fear to have a foothold in their heart. Looking back, people see that they placed too much value on work, money, and fulfillment and not enough on family, relationships, love, and forgiveness. So why can’t we all start changing that as we go through our lives, rather than just at the finish line?

The Apostle Paul says that when we do things we don’t want to do or we don’t do the things we do want to do, it is not us doing those things, but the sin living in us which could be caused by the memories of fear, shame, and guilt that we are holding on to. Everyone must realize that God does not view us as guilty for those things, but He wants us to embrace the love and truth and live like we believe it.

You can join Dr. Alex each Wednesday for the live podcast covering the topics of health, wellness, relationships, and success, pertaining to the whole life: mind, body and spirit. They are held every Wednesday afternoon and are completely free to anyone who would like to join. As a bonus, a few callers can get a free personal custom code for any issue bothering them. 

https://www.dralexanderloyd.com/calls

41 The Love Test

 

In this episode Dr. Alex will talk about "The Love Test"

George Vaillant (part of the Harvard Study of Adult Development): “When the study began, nobody cared about empathy or attachment. But the key to healthy aging is relationships, relationships, relationships.”

Do you want to experience true love? True love can only be found in relationships.

If you want to be sure if you love a person and vice versa, you have to listen to this episode.

Different Levels of Love:

• Little Love
• Medium Love
• Big Love

Something to ponder this week:

Get a piece of paper and write down your spouse's name or your partner's name. Answer these questions and on each of these questions, write down your answer to that. Label it as little love, medium, love, big love or what’s in it for me?

• Why do you believe they love you? Why do you believe you love them?

• What would or could make them stop loving you? What would or could make me stop loving that person?

• Which of my actions are making the other person angry? What does that person do that angers me?

• What else do you want for your life? What if that doesn’t ever happen?

• What if one of us changes?

• What if you meet someone else that you connect to?

• Do you keep a record of the other person’s ways that wronged you?

 

40 How to live in the present moment

Some of us live as prisoners to the past and some of us live as prisoners to the future, but we all have a difficult time living in the present moment, which is the only place we can be truly happy, content, joyful, and at peace. We are preprogrammed to focus on the present moment, which makes it so hard to break the habits and addictions that are bringing us pleasure or helping us flee from our pain. It is easy to say that we will stop doing those things tomorrow, but when tomorrow comes, we will not want to stop then either. These expectations we are creating for what we stop or start doing tomorrow puts us in a state of chronic stress today that drains our energy, gives us a negative perspective, and makes us feel like we are withdrawing pleasure from our lives.

We lead ourselves to believe that planning is always going to be painful and stressful, when it should really help us do what is right, best, and love-based in the present moment. By seeking the right goals, and leaving the end result up to God or love, we will receive better results than ever before. This converts our pain with no meaning to pain with real meaning, which will help us walk toward our love-based desires.

After this episode, ask yourself this question for every one of your roles in life: “Am I living more in the past, present or future?”

You can join Dr. Alex each Wednesday for the live podcast covering the topics of health, wellness, relationships, and success, pertaining to the whole life: mind, body and spirit. They are held every Wednesday afternoon and are completely free to anyone who would like to join. As a bonus, a few callers can get a free personal custom code for any issue bothering them. 

https://www.dralexanderloyd.com/calls

39 Foundational Series: SIN sick - are you?

In this episode Dr. Alex will talk about "Sin sick - are you?"

 

This episode of Cutting Edge is part of a foundational series that we will be featuring. Please forgive the inferior sound quality, as this was a recorded conference call.

Many of us have grown up in religious households, where we were told that if we do good, we are good; if we do bad, we are bad; and if we do neutral, we are ok. In fact, when we have done bad things or one of our relationships is not in good standing, we often feel physical symptoms and negative emotions such as guilt, shame, fear, sickness, or misery.

In Galatians 1 of the Bible, Paul writes to Jews and Gentiles who were followers of Jesus but who had reverted back to believing the “old law” that was a long list of rules and regulations, which would only lead to death. When Jesus came, He destroyed the old law and brought the new law that would be in effect forevermore: love. Essentially, if you love right, you will do everything right, but if you love wrong, nothing you do will be right. Once the new law was established, the old law lost its necessity, so trying to keep those rules now will only lead to stress and eventually death from stress-related illnesses. By being in right relationship with God and accepting His free gift of grace, you will live in love and your identity will never be bad.

You can join Dr. Alex each Wednesday for the live podcast covering the topics of health, wellness, relationships, and success, pertaining to the whole life: mind, body and spirit. They are held every Wednesday afternoon and are completely free to anyone who would like to join. As a bonus, a few callers can get a free personal custom code for any issue bothering them.  https://www.dralexanderloyd.com/calls

 

38 Foundational Series: The crisis without crisis

In this episode Dr. Alex will talk about "The crisis without crisis"

This episode of Cutting Edge is part of a foundational series that we will be featuring. Please forgive the inferior sound quality, as this was a recorded conference call.

Many of us have grown up in religious households, where we were told that if we do good, we are good; if we do bad, we are bad; and if we do neutral, we are ok. In fact, when we have done bad things or one of our relationships is not in good standing, we often feel physical symptoms and negative emotions such as guilt, shame, fear, sickness, or misery.

In Galatians 1 of the Bible, Paul writes to Jews and Gentiles who were followers of Jesus but who had reverted back to believing the “old law” that was a long list of rules and regulations, which would only lead to death. When Jesus came, He destroyed the old law and brought the new law that would be in effect forevermore: love. Essentially, if you love right, you will do everything right, but if you love wrong, nothing you do will be right. Once the new law was established, the old law lost its necessity, so trying to keep those rules now will only lead to stress and eventually death from stress-related illnesses. By being in right relationship with God and accepting His free gift of grace, you will live in love and your identity will never be bad.

You can join Dr. Alex each Wednesday for the live podcast covering the topics of health, wellness, relationships, and success, pertaining to the whole life: mind, body and spirit. They are held every Wednesday afternoon and are completely free to anyone who would like to join. As a bonus, a few callers can get a free personal custom code for any issue bothering them.  https://www.dralexanderloyd.com/calls

 

37 Savant or Idiot

In this episode Dr. Alex will talk about Savant or Idiot.

You can join Dr. Alex each Wednesday for the live podcast covering the topics of health, wellness, relationships, and success, pertaining to the whole life: mind, body and spirit. They are held every Wednesday afternoon and are completely free to anyone who would like to join. As a bonus, a few callers can get a free personal custom code for any issue bothering them.  https://www.dralexanderloyd.com/calls

 

36 "This" is so much easer!

In this episode Dr. Alex will talk about "This" is so much easier!

You can join Dr. Alex each Wednesday for the live podcast covering the topics of health, wellness, relationships, and success, pertaining to the whole life: mind, body and spirit. They are held every Wednesday afternoon and are completely free to anyone who would like to join. As a bonus, a few callers can get a free personal custom code for any issue bothering them.  https://www.dralexanderloyd.com/calls